Why would you apologize for what you read for pleasure? Every book read for pleasure should be celebrated. And novels that celebrate love, commitment, relationships, making relationships work -- why isn't that something to be respected? - Nora Roberts
Saturday, August 30, 2014
I am retiring in September. I'm well past normal American retirement age and with Mr. Bat's very shaky health, well, I just want to spend some time with him before our time runs out. I worked oncology for many years, and it's true when they say that no person who is dying has ever said that they wish they had spent more time at work. The regrets that people express are almost always personal: letting a friendship fade away, holding a grudge for 40 years, that kind of thing.
There hasn't been an announcement at work yet that I'm leaving, but that place has a grapevine like you wouldn't believe, and so some people have stopped by to cry and hug and - you know the routine. I finally went out and got a box of the good Kleenex to have on my desk because the cheap stuff shreds.
Most people are suggesting that I join at least one social media ... thing ... as a way to keep in touch. I am probably the only person there who doesn't have a Facebook page. I work with a truly exceptional bunch of people, very diverse, very talented, very funny, very dedicated to doing a superb job every day. I'd like to stay in touch with most of them, a little bit, short of going to lunch with them, if that makes any sense. I can count three people I'll want to lunch with or see socially otherwise, but for the rest, casually staying in touch is enough for them and for me.
It was also suggested as a fast way to let everyone know when/if Mr. Bat's health changes suddenly. (I usually just send out a blast text for that.)
Facebook, then? Or Twitter? Some other thing I don't even know the name of?
Should I include my birth name (last name) or will that cause thousands of people I knew in 1966 to want to have coffee?
Is it better to simply get everyone's email address (I have this fantasy in which I catch up with all my emails from the past year ...) and let it go at that?
Can I sign up as Mean Fat Old Bat or do I have to sign up as Real First Name/Real Maiden Name/Real Last Name? My real name is quite common. Not quite Jane Smith but not far from it.
Do I absolutely have to give them my correct date of birth? What about identity theft?
I thought I'd hang out on Facebook for awhile and see what's there, but the personal pages - ones not associated with some business - seem to be set to private or at least to members-only. So I haven't learned much.
I don't want this to take over my life. I just want to know if someone is in the hospital and if Meghan had a boy or a girl, and have a way to wish Laurie a happy 50th birthday.
Thanks for taking Granny by the hand. I wish I had a grandchild here to help me, but I don't and that's the way it goes. Your input would be most appreciated!